If your girlfriend has just broken up with you — especially if it happened out of the blue — you will likely be going through a huge range of emotions. You’ll probably feel the urge to break into tears, and your heartbreak may feel a lot of anger, confusion, and hopelessness. These are all normal feelings after a breakup, but if you want to win your ex back for good as quickly as possible, you need to know what to do in the first few days after you and your girlfriend broke up.
Although I realize that it may be too late for this now, there are few things you should try to avoid when your ex first breaks up with you. One of the most important is to try and avoid crying and showing your ex how weak and helpless you really are.
Don’t Argue With Your Ex Or “Appeal To Emotion”.
You may be so inclined to ask your ex why she wanted to break up with you. You may also be tempted to apologize to your ex for all of what went wrong, then try to cling to the past and just seem like a sucker! up. Don’t do this!
The “Anything Can Happen” Policy.
The next thing you’ll need to do is accept that closure may not be possible. If you’re especially prone to anxiety, then you may obsess and play the breakup over and over again in your mind. But the key thing is to be open to any and all possibilities of what may happen. You can’t predict the future and you cannot impose your own reality on others. I know, this may be hard to face. A lot of things you’ll want to do next are counterintuitive. They say “don’t date right away on the rebound” but I think it’s foolish to live without choices. You very well may want to try at least flirting/hanging out with other women even if you won’t get serious. But what if you want something you had that you feel you lost. If you were to go back and retain something you invested a lot of time in, you may feel better. So even though, I’d say in many situations it may be wrong, if you have a good feelin about the relationship you were just in-